Hello to my oddly optimistic fallen angels! I realized that if I expect people to treat me bad and go into a situation thinking that way, then only negative things will happen. Today, I tried a more positive approach. I was more social, I never mentioned any mental health jargon, and I engaged in rather normal conversations. I met new people as well as strengthened my existing friendships. I took initiative to start attending free guitar lessons that go on in my college. I haven’t touched my personal guitar in months. I took initiative to play video games with some other college students at the student lounge. I took initiative in contacting my friends through text and phone calls to plan to hang out in person just for the hell of it. I think the reason why I have felt alone for so long is that I never took the initiative. I always expected people to reach out to me, but it’s not realistic to wait for someone to read my mind. As a child, I was told to do certain things like chores or to go to grade school because I had to. But when I became an adult myself, I realized no one is gonna tell me to do my laundry or wake up to go to my morning courses. We can do anything we want as long as we don’t break the law. I can easily quit college, quit my job, delete all my social outlets, and just live off the state. I have done that in the past. But philosophically, seclusion is not a happy life. Some people are fairly decent if you look in the right places. Trust me, it is futile to resist the human urge to be social. Don’t be afraid to go outside and meet people! If money is an issue, there are plenty of free programs out there. If transportation is an issue, there are cheap ways to travel. The city bus or walking or making friends with people who have cars. Lol. There is a solution to any problem if you try hard enough. I hope you understand just how important human interaction truly is too. If you already know, then I’m proud of you. For the other lonely people like me, take initiative! Well, my fallen angels, have a wonderful day! Over and out.
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say what you mean – mean what you – because mental telepathy never works – thank God. because if some guys could read my mind …
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You’re funny as hell. I always look forward to your comments. But yeah, guys are blessed for not being able to read my mind. Lmao!
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Love this post, taking initiative is how we take control of our lives and live them the way we want to. So yes, initiate and enjoy the lives we have and be well and be happy! xxxooo
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Thank you for your comment! 🙂
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Thank you for posting, sometimes we forget we actually do have control of the things we do, positive things. So thank you!
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I’m so glad I can help. Rather than pretending I’m okay for my readers, I tell them the truth so they know they’re not alone. That loneliness isn’t real. Your blog is pretty great too. I read a few of your posts. Great job! 😀
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Thank you! Yes truth is what I stick by as well. Learn from your truth and keep going on, never give up! Never! xxxooo
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Some days are better than others but it could be seen as a bad life with good moments or a good life with bad moments. Either way is right. Might as well be positive, right?
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Yes, positive for sure! Just jumping over all the hurdles!
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Exactly! No pain, no gain, they always say.
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Yes exactly! We sure do have our share of pain, so we get more gains as well!
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Agreed! I’m glad I met you! 🙂
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So good to meet you too!
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Good thoughts, I am definitely more of a loner too. Anxiety makes it hard to reach out to people. But it’s also so important to realize that friendships go both ways, both people need to reach out and initiate interaction. I’ve also discovered I have a lot more to give other people than I ever thought I did. By intentionally going out of my way to hold brief conversations with people in class and make new friends in my hall I’ve grown a lot and found it easier to combat all my issues.
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I’m glad you related to what I was saying. Sometimes I feel like the little interactions aren’t enough for me. For some reason, I want to skip all the small talk and become life-long friends. Then again, it takes time to establish a connection with others. The good is never easy and the easy never good. I’m starting to realize that any kind of relationship is a give and take. I tend to be flaky and break promises but that’s not good at all. It all starts with reaching out and saying hello.
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Yes, I’m that way too, wanting to skip all the small talk but also not wanting to just trust people or let myself be trusted. It does start with the small things and each little step in the right direction is good. It takes time, but it’s good.
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I definitely agree. Thank you! Interactions like ours reassures me that I am, indeed, not alone.
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Yes! And that is so important! Hope dwells in that place of realization that we are not alone.
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I feel completely lonely but I have to keep trying to convince myself that loneliness isn’t real. I believe hope exist as well. That’s progress lol.
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